"I don't wanna be like Cinderella
Sittin' in a dark, cold, dusty cellar
Waitin' for somebody to come and set me free
I don't wanna be like someone waiting
For a handsome prince to come and save me
Oh, I will survive
Unless somebody's on my side"
These are the lyrics to a song by Cheetah Girls called Cinderella. I have personally always enjoyed the song because of the beat and how fun it was to me.
But, for real, the lyrics right here should be thought about and looked at more. Disney has shown girls to need a prince to make them happy. Really? A guy for the girl is gonna make life great and fantastical? Oh! And not just that, but it will be the first guy you say you love! Makes it easy on us girls, right?
Heck no! Now, let's look at the chorus to the song again. Reality, you are going to have to wait on that prince of yours. Your prince isn't just gonna come walking through your door at this very moment. It takes time for him to arrive and for you to know that he is the one. So, why just sit around waiting? You could be doing something pretty awesome with your life while you wait. And if you are doing something awesome, by the time your man comes along, he will see how great you are because you aren't sitting on you lazy butt waiting for him. You will survive without him at the moment!
Now, I know how much girls want a guy to come already and sweep them off their feet. I am one of those girls! But I have learned that patience and living your life not worrying about him is so much better. I mean, God knows the perfect timing for the two of us to come together. Why worry about it?
Girls! Just think about it. Maybe the reason that you haven't met "the one" might just mean that God is still growing him into the perfect man for you. And He might even be working on you so that your prince can have a great woman of God. That, my friend, is not a process you want to rush.
In the meantime, read your Bible. If you stay in the Word you can grow in wisdom on how to handle your singleness for the time being. Talk to God. He is there to comfort you if you ever feel sad and heart broken because you just want to be loved by a guy that will take care of you all your life. I mean, God is already doing that already, so why not get used to how a guy really should treat a girl. Don't settle. It's stupid and makes you look thirsty. Don't be thirsty. It's not a very pretty look on a girl. Write a letter to your future husband on how you feel and how you can't wait for him and save it for your wedding day. I personally have done that and am waiting for the day I can give my man the letter I wrote for him before I even knew him. Pray for your future husband. Praying for him helps you focus on the fact that there is someone out there for you and not focusing a lot on other guys that can distract you from him. Read Song of Songs and see what a true relationship should look like and how beautiful it is. And don't miss the verses talking about waiting (usually people say it's talking about sex, but relationships are hard to wait for also). Lastly, embrace your singleness. I mean, it's actually a really fun stage! You can focus on your friends, yourself, and God. And you don't have to deal with being in a relationship with a guy, because, let's face it, guys can be so complicated!
That's all I got for y'all tonight :)
God bless!!
Philippians 4:13
