Embrace the Singleness

Well, it's been a long while since I posted... So hello again!

I thought I would just talk about my dating fast I had and what I have learned from it...

I decided to go a year without dating for personal reasons. The fast started October 31, 2013 and ended November 1, 2014. I turned down a few guys throughout that time period. It felt good for two reasons. First, I had guys ask me out! Woohoo! How awesome does that make a girl feel? Pretty dang awesome! Second, I was able to say "no" to a guy because of the fast. It is actually really nice to be able to tell a guy that you can't date and don't want to.

Throughout that year, I learned that guys and girls can actually be friends and not have the potential to get together. I made a number of really good guy friends throughout that period. I mean, the opposite sex can be whole lot of fun when it's just a friendship going on.

I also learned that some guys just don't know when to quit. I told some guys I couldn't date them and some that I just want to be friends. Some of these guys have not quit trying to hit on me (thinking that I don't notice that's what they are doing...) and I found that I do not like that. It's interesting because I used to really enjoy any and every guy trying to "get at this" but have found that it is actually now very unattractive for a guy to do it in that manner.

Most importantly, I figured out what kind of guy I really want to be with. I focused on all my Christian guy friends and what qualities I appreciated in them. I tried not to be extreme about it and make my future man the perfect man. I made a list of the type of guy I actually want to spend the rest of my life with.

I personally think that girls should totally do this also. Make a list of the type of guy God would want you to be with. Not only make the list, but focus on these qualities in different guys that might be a potential man for you. If they don't go with most the qualities, then don't waste your time. If they go with most of them, then don't push them aside because some of the qualities might not be important.

One last thing I learned throughout the fast is that the single life is a great life. For real! Being single is amazing! You are your own person and can focus on yourself for a time period. You also don't have to depend on anyone else. It's also a time of freedom. You can go wherever you want and be with the friends you want to be with. It is a great experience if you aren't focusing on a guy, but on God and yourself. So, for the single girls, embrace the singleness and enjoy it. It only lasts for so long.

God bless!!
Philippians 4:13